Bible Teacher. Pastor.Educator.

Being a polite Nigerian is not easy especially in Nigeria, but it is possible.

“Winning’ is not defined by me or your parents or even the market…it’s defined by you.” - Gary Vaynerchuk

Dear Young Leader and Gifted Leader,
Never forget your manners. Being polite & honest with your team and customers will not cost you any money. It would increase employee productivity and generate repeat customers 

Customers come in all shapes and sizes and so do their attitudes. When they go low into the abbeys of conflict, we go aboard the plane of emotional intelligence and fly high into the clouds of wisdom.

Being calm and polite is not easy when you speaking with an unkind, annoyed, hostile, or aggressive customer. It requires special emotional management skills.

You need wisdom to control of the fire of tension by speaking with tact and by watching your tone. Amidst your highest level of professionalism, never forget your manners. Watch your tone! You are a Nigerian we are loud.😂😂😂

 

We have learned that the best way to win a prospective client is by killing them with kindness by thinking carefully and quickly about  when to speak, and when to be quiet. Being polite is not easy but possible with most customers.

We Nigerians are rude and aggressive people. We are known across Africa as the most aggressive and intense of Africans and for our ability to inform the world of our massive intellectual capacity. Being a polite Nigerian is not easy especially in Nigeria, but it is possible.

Self management is the key to improving organizational discipline.

You are the leader. I love you and am praying for you.
Your Catalyst Coach
James Owolabi.

Read Everyday!

Dear Young and Gifted Leader

             Read everyday! Start with your Bible. The world is a global village. Your ability to think globally and act locally will make you an outlier in your generation! Reading books opens your mind to new cultures. 

Reading will allow you to experience the world through the lens of various people that have completely different prespectives than your own. This will expose you to other cultures and ways of experiencing life. Read everyday! Start with the Bible. Having cultural awareness makes you an asset as a leader anywhere you go. I love you and believe in you.

Respectfully

Pastor James Owolabi

Stop comparing Yourself!You are such a great mother and wife!

Dear Young and Gifted Leader, 

 You are a gift to our country! Stop comparing yourself to to other women in your church family . You are a great mother and an awesome wife! Stop going to bed with your  head down. Smile! You are a blessings to us! We are so glad to have you in our lives! 

Hey Strong Woman!

        You are such a blessing to us and you make us smile. If you allow comparison to paralyze you it will! Allow God to help you find people who help compliment your gifts. Don’t allow comparison to hold you back from setting goals and reaching them. A majority of comparisons are formed in our minds and take us captive from within. Rather ask God to send other women to help you achieve your goals.  The game of comparing ourselves to others usually happens in our head and is very dangerous because it  is not always something we express out loud.  The negative conversations that we have with ourselves can cause us to turn down opportunities because we begin to count ourselves out. Don’t do that my dear sister. Your Heavenly Father loves you too much. Remember that comparisons are formed in our minds and take us captive from within. Pray daily for God’s voice to fill your mind through his word. Reflect daily on his love for you and your family.  Ask God for discernment in finding the right people to help you do what you’ve been called for. I love you and am praying for you.

Respectfully from Chicago

Pastor James Owolabi

Ditch Apathy! Embrace Self Discipline.

Dear Young and Gifted Leader,

Apathy comes slowly and is very subtly, but its affects are deep. My concern is that apathy is slowing you down and draining you.

That is why I challenge you to resist apathy and embrace self discipline. This can be easier said than done, a simple solution to help cure any apathy that could be lingering is reading. By incorporating reading as a daily habit you can fight against your fleshly desire to be apathetic and actually see positive change in your life.

I love you and I believe in you.

Respectfully

Pastor James Owolabi

 

 

Lord, Please Guide My Words

“The lips of the righteous leaders nourish many of their followers, but fools die for lack of sense.” (Proverbs‬ ‭10:21‬)

Dear Young and Gifted Leader,

Watch your words! Ungodly words are either a result of unconfessed sin in your heart, unresolved conflict with other leaders, or selfish ambition in your heart. Your words in public and private will also either develop your credibility, distract people from Jesus, or destroy your life.

In my two decades of student ministry, one thing I’ve learned is that the hardest mistakes to correct are from words I had spoken without first thinking of the consequences. Therefore, here are five things to remember before you open your mouth:

1. Will these words reflect my commitment to Christ?
2. Will these words build the faith of the listener?
3. Will these words allow me to foster love among my fellow believers?
4. Will these words establish my commitment to allow the Holy Spirit to change my heart as well?
5. Will I regret saying these words later?

 

Hey! I love you, and am praying for you!

 

Respectfully,

Pastor James

Edited by Andy Gehron (DefendingTheLord.com)