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18 Ways to Ruin Your Reputation on Facebook by Paul Steinbrueck - ChurchLeaders.com - Christian Leadership Blogs, Articles, Videos, How To's, and Free Resources

Facebook is a great way for you to build and maintain relationships with people both inside your church and in your community. But Facebook is not without its risks. Every time you post something, you risk hurting, offending or distancing yourself from people. So, here are 18 things you want to avoid doing on Facebook…

First, the ugly…

1. Post something out of frustration in the heat of the moment. 

We all get frustrated at times. And if you want to engage people authentically, you need to “keep it real.” But Facebooking when angry, frustrated, or hurt is never a good idea. Take a few minutes (or a few hours) to cool down, and then think again if you really want to use Facebook to vent.

2. Criticize people. 

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Even if you don’t use a person’s name, chances are you’re Facebook friends with that person or someone close enough to the situation to know who you’re really talking about.

3. Embarrass yourself.

Expect everyone in your congregation and your community to see everything you post to Facebook. So, don’t post anything you wouldn’t be comfortable saying or showing from the pulpit on a Sunday morning.

4. Embarrass your family. 

Our spouses and kids say and do funny things all the time. Most of those things can be posted to Facebook with no problem, and they help people to see you’re a normal person with a normal family. But be sensitive and when in doubt, ask your spouse and kids if it’s OK to share a quote, happening, or pic online.

5. Criticize other churches in the community. 

Every church has a different mission, ministry philosophy, style of worship, and theology. But we all share one Lord, one faith, and one baptism. We should be known for our unity not our division.

The self-absorbed…

6. Only talk about your church. 

Pastors, when people become Facebook friends with you, it’s because they want to engage with you – a real person – not a spokesperson for your church.

7. Share everything posted to the church FB page. 

Even if you post personal updates to your Facebook profile, don’t repost every church update as well. Some – yes, all – no.

8 . Just talk about yourself. 

When you go to a social event, do you like hanging around with people who only talk about themselves and never ask you about you? Don’t be one of those people online either.

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Forgiveness is a choice.............Facisnating video......Rwandan Tutsi Forgives

 

How To Communicate With A Leader With A Different Personality « Chris LoCurto's Blog

Above all things know thyself.

• Get to know you – You have to first get to know you! If you don’t understand yourself, you can’t really understand why you act, react and process the way you do. And the key to giving information is understanding how you receive information. Once you know this, you can adjust your style to better communicate with others — not changing who you are, just adjusting how you communicate.

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Paul Miller: “The great struggle of my life is not trying to discern God’s will.......

Paul Miller: “The great struggle of my life is not trying to discern God’s will; it is trying to discern and then disown my own. Once I see that, then prayer flows.”

1. The bible contains God's will for your life.

2. God's will is that you love Him more than life itself.

3. God's will is that you listen to Him more than your emotions.

4. God's will is that you trust Him with your "trash" and pain more than your perception.

5. God's will is that you love the people in your house not just on a mission trip.

6. God' s will is that you honor your parents especially when you do know you are right.

7. God's will is that you remember that you are not God. You did not create the universe.

8. God's will is that you learn more about Him by obeying Him.

9. God's will is that you seek to deny your self, take up your cross and follow Him every day and not just on Sunday.

10. God's will is declared and demostrated in the work, life, and words of Jesus Christ. Follow Jesus on His twitter page the Bible!!!! 

My problem is not that I do not know the will of God is that I am in love with my own will. 
Grace and Peace

Pastor James Owolabi 

God Make me a servant who speaks your word not my thoughts.........

Jeremiah 29: 9 So do not listen to your prophets, your diviners, your dreamers, your fortune-tellers, or your sorcerers, who are saying to you, ‘You shall not serve the king of Babylon.’ 10 For it is a lie that they are prophesying to you, with the result that you will be removed far from your land, and I will drive you out, and you will perish. 11 But any nation that will bring its neck under the yoke of the king of Babylon and serve him, I will leave on its own land, to work it and dwell there, declares the Lord.”’”

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On Trials and Temptations…. James 1

James 1:2-7

 2Consider it pure joy, my brothers, whenever you face trials of many kinds, 3because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance. 4Perseverance must finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything. 5If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to him. 6But when he asks, he must believe and not doubt, because he who doubts is like a wave of the sea, blown and tossed by the wind. 7That man should not think he will receive

anything from the Lord; 8he is a double-minded man, unstable in all he does.

"Trials are medicines which our gracious and wise Physician prescribes because we need them; and he proportions the frequency and weight of them to what the case requires. Let us trust his skill and thank him for his prescription.

--Sir Isaac Newton (1642-1727), English physicist, mathematician, astronomer, natural philosopher, alchemist and theologian"

Yes! I believe in the Resurrection

I don't believe in the resurrection of Jesus Christ because it makes sense or because of some brillant verbal delivery by a renowed bible scholar. NO! I believe in the resurrection because I am convinced that Jesus is God's perfect man and man's perfect God. I believe that the death and resurrection of Jesus and His death on the cross resists all natural and human laws of logical reasoning and does not bow to the expectations of western thought about God and non western traditions or translations of a creator. "Socrates dies with honor, surrounded by his disciples listening to the most tender words -the easiest death that one could wish to die. Jesus dies in pain, dishonor, mockery, the object of universal cursing – the most horrible death that one could fear. At the receipt of the cup of poison, Socrates blesses him who could not give it to him without tears; Jesus, while suffering the sharpest pains, prays for His most bitter enemies. If Socrates lived and died like a philosopher, Jesus lived and died like a god."
Jean-Jacques Rousseau, French philosopher (1712-78). I believe in the resurrection because Jesus Christ makes sense …..sometimes.

Every Child needs a Mentor

All children need a laptop. Not a computer, but a human laptop. Moms, Dads, Grannies and Grandpas, Aunts, Uncles – someone to hold them, read to them, teach them. Loved ones who will embrace them and pass on the experience, rituals and knowledge of a hundred previous generations. Loved ones who will pass to the next generation their expectations of them, their hopes, and their dreams. -- General Colin L. Powell

Learn to Live

"We could learn alot from crayons. Some of sharp, some are pretty, some are dull, some have weird names, some are more popular than others--but they all have to learn to live in the same box"

Top 10 Paradoxes from Leonard Sweet:

Here are the Top 10 paradoxes that will rule our future:

1) Do little large.

2) To move up, move down.

3) Learn to fail so you can succeed. 

4) Your only control is in being out of control. 

5) It's more important to know what you don't know than what you know. 

6) The more you think out-of-the-box, the more you need well-built boxes to think.

7) A graying globe requires greening.

8) Only locavores can globalize.

9) When fast replaces vast, go slowly with the holy. 

10) Moore's Law makes Murphy's Law all the more relevant.

3) Learn to fail so you can succeed. 

4) Your only control is in being out of control. 

5) It's more important to know what you don't know than what you know. 

6) The more you think out-of-the-box, the more you need well-built boxes to think.

7) A graying globe requires greening.

8) Only locavores can globalize.

9) When fast replaces vast, go slowly with the holy. 

10) Moore's Law makes Murphy's Law all the more relevant.